You had a great date, or at least an O.K. date. You hope
you can go out again to get to know him better. He said he would call. You wait
for the phone to ring or the text to come in and crickets! What do you do when
he doesn’t call? I get this question all the time. It is sad but true, it seems
that men these days don’t pursue women as they use to. It can be confusing and
down right frustrating.
Most women either get angry, confused or begin to beat them selves up, thinking it was something they did wrong. Most of the time it isn’t because of you! The worst thing you can do is make it mean that you are undesirable.
There are so many reason’s why men might not call:
1) They could be busy with work, family or some other obligation.
Men are single mind focused and if his attention is being pulled somewhere, he wont call until his attention is no longer needed.
2) They could be shy and not sure if you like them.
Guys really do fear being rejected. He does put himself at risk by pursuing a woman. If you like someone, make sure it is clear so he can feel safe to pursue you. This is tricky to do without pursuing him. ( which is a big no no) You don’t want to pursue, but you do want to give clear signals.
3) They could be dating other women and haven’t decided to be in a serious relationship yet.
There are natural stages of dating that I like to call trimesters. In the initial attraction stage, you aren’t committed yet, you are discovering each other.
You also should be dating more than just him. So when he doesn’t call you have other men that are paying attention to you. This really helps to not focus on one guy before you are actually in a relationship.
What ever happens, if a guy doesn’t call, here is what you do:
Go have fun and live your juicy life. Waiting for someone to come around is not only a sign of low self esteem, it isn’t attractive. Give him a week, go live your life, if you are still interested in him and haven’t heard from him, just call or write with a simple and neutral:
“Hi. How are you?” This will let him know that it is safe to reach out to you even if it has been a week or so since you last spoke. If you don’t get a response after that, WALK AWAY. He isn’t the guy for you and that is O.K. You want a good match for you.