We all yearn to become our best self and live a life of fulfillment and contribution, but how do we get there? This is the most valuable question we can ask ourselves. Nomi Bachar explains through her innovated Gates of Power® Method that, “If you want to be all that you can be and live a life that is purposeful, expressive and fulfilled, you need to attend to all facets of yourself. Your being is your garden and you have to tend to it, so that it flowers and brings beautiful fruit.” She explains that there are seven facets or gates that are channels of expression of our inner being. Through these gates we learn, expand and experience the world around us. When all gates are open and work in harmony, we experience wholeness and inner power.
Your body reflects your emotions, beliefs, and behavioral patterns. What we put into our mouths, how much we move, how deeply we breathe, our emotion, our thoughts and beliefs, are all imprinted on our bodies. “The Body is an emotional, spiritual map - an exquisite guide to our personal history and life lessons,” says Bachar. “Through the Gate of the Body, we explore ways of regaining aliveness, spontaneous flow, and true expression in our bodies.” We can all learn to understand the body as a mirror of our consciousness, and to experience the body as an instrument of our energy
We must work to accept all of our feelings, including the ones that are difficult and painful to deal with. Accepting and understanding our feelings helps us release and restructure them. Feelings help us survive, express, and transform. Each feeling contributes to our understanding of ourselves, others, and life. For example, sadness can inform us of unfulfilled needs and longings, and it can move us to find fulfillment. Anger might inform us about our boundaries and a possible violation of them. Fear can alarm us or teach us to find courage. And so on. The poetic, ecstatic, and inspiring moments of our lives are born out of our ability to feel. The Gate of Emotion encourages openness, integration and expression. In order to become emotionally healthy and balanced, we need to experience and explore our feelings and express them appropriately. Emotional integration frees our energy field, removes energetic blockages and allows us to be expressive, creative and present.
Good relationships with others start with you - the individual self! How we communicate with ourselves is just as important as communicating with others, and that exchange takes in different forms (verbally, written, bodily) externally and internally. Our self judgments cause us to judge others and the cycle becomes vicious. However, if we examine the three aspects of the self: The Emotional Self, The Defensive Self and The Expanded Self. These aspects are the emotional, energetic, and mental sides of our inner self that manifest in physical and behavioral patterns. It is as if there are three different people living within each of us. When all three work together as a team they are unified as a cohesive self. When the aspects are in conflict with one another, the self is divided and weak. A positive inner dialogue enhances our ability to relate with others. The goal is to return to union with oneself and others.
Living each day is a creative process. We make choices, we come up with solutions, we create small or big things. It can be a letter, a meal, a new way to dress up, a design for a new building, or a treatment for a movie. This gate inspires you to embrace creativity and expression as a way of life. Our emotional self loves to play, to be silly, to create, express, and discover new things. All of the above enhance our happiness, and happiness is the jewel of life. The Gates of Creative Expression, more than any other, leads us to the experience of joy.
Our personal life path is defined by: who we are, and how we choose to live our lives. How do we share our abilities and talents with others? What career do we choose? What is our life purpose? How can we passionately contribute and communicate with others? This gate emphasizes the importance of defining a personal life path and gaining a sense of direction and focus. Some of us are very clear about our life path. For others, the sense of true purpose and vocation is lost as a result of a need for status and money. It can also be buried under socio-cultural pressures or because of unresolved personal insecurities. What really thrills and inspires us is not solely a logical or intellectual choice. This gate assists us in finding out what truly nourishes our soul and how to commit to that and live a life of purpose. When we uncover our true life path, we gain direction, focus and fulfillment.
Do you allow yourself stillness or the chance to sit in silence? By that, I mean a time when you’re doing nothing but resting your mind, just breathing and being present? Inner silence means being able to achieve a sense of inner stillness. Our mind is busy obsessing over the past and future. It is relentlessly trying to figure out life. Even when we sleep, our mind is working. It is rare to just be. The Gate of Silence trains you to meditate, relax, and be present. Sometimes in the middle of the night, one might wake up and hear silence. The world is quiet. But there is another kind of silence that is rare and hard to tune into - a deep stillness inside, in which you hear eternity. You feel a peaceful merging into all that is. In this inner quiet, you experience a melting, expanding, and dissolving sensation, as if you lose and find yourself all at once. Time stops, or maybe it stretches, and all that you think you know disappears into yet a deeper knowing. Through silence and meditative practice, we can experience profound clarity and peace and hear the voice of our intuition.
Have you ever asked yourself who am I? Why am I here? What’s in my way? How do I get there? On our journey of discovery, we should be asking ourselves these questions. We each have favorite areas of life that we are drawn to understand and express. Since all paths lead to the truth, much like all rivers yearn to return to the ocean, it does not matter which area you’re passionate about. When you contemplate it deeply and earnestly, you touch the truth and slowly come to know it. The main thing is to keep asking, learning, and opening up to a heartfelt knowledge of self, others, and life. Examining the Gate of Knowledge supports your personal inquiry into the nature of reality and encourages you to make a commitment to a continuous and consistent learning, questioning, and understanding.